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Hooking Up- Where?  

Teachme2017 26F
156 posts
4/3/2018 9:59 pm
Hooking Up- Where?

So I'm making plans. But. A couple things are stopping me.
I am unable and uncomfortable to host. I do not want anyone to have my address that shouldn't . And I don't want to take any chances that may put me in harm's way.
I do not want to pay for a hotel for a couple hours and I am unable to be away overnight.
So.
Any ideas on how and where to hook up?
I dunno.
In the comments.
Car sex!
Find someone to host.
Just sext.
Get yourself off.


proteus_2a 58M
7979 posts
4/4/2018 12:13 am

Finding some friend to host would be the logical thing to do
And the hotel option as well
In the meantime,texting and getting off seems like a worthy equivalent,
in anticipation for the main event !
Cheers my lady - P


Yours_4A_knight 59M

4/4/2018 12:22 am

Assuming that both you are unable to host and want to meet often enough that splitting hotels becomes too expensive, it is not like Mount Rainier is that far away, and you might be able to pack a picnic lunch and find someplace remote enough have sufficient privacy enjoy the afternoon. Summer and families might mean you have to go further but think of all the cool things you will see

Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
4/4/2018 2:31 am

Go 50/50 on motel room.... Motel 6 in Fife is $60 a night. You both pitch in $30, plus tax, the rooms are clean, there's a shower , you don't have to stay there all night, but that's up to you...especially if you hookup with guy again .... Seems this is the best way, and it's safe.


Ienjoythetaste 75M
2560 posts
4/4/2018 2:51 am

Most important is meet first, with no promise of sex, somewhere you feel safe. Also let a friend who you can trust know where you are and make arrangements to contact them.
If you both have the right chemistry then you can both decide how to proceed.

“For a moment, nothing happened. Then, after a second or so, nothing continued to happen.”
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Jagermann78 45M

4/4/2018 10:12 am

First off read Ienjoythetaste‘s comment.

Now I get to piss people off. Women are drastically out numbered on this site. You get to be picky....make him foot the bill on the motel. Car sex is fine but limits....creativity.

Met in public first. Doesn’t have to be special....McDonalds, or you can go to a nice sit down place. Just be around other people and see if this person is even someone you want to have sex with.

J.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
4/4/2018 1:40 pm

    Quoting Jagermann78:
    First off read Ienjoythetaste‘s comment.

    Now I get to piss people off. Women are drastically out numbered on this site. You get to be picky....make him foot the bill on the motel. Car sex is fine but limits....creativity.

    Met in public first. Doesn’t have to be special....McDonalds, or you can go to a nice sit down place. Just be around other people and see if this person is even someone you want to have sex with.
make him foot the bill on the motel. .... No you mangina, she's not a prostitute. She wants to play, he [whoever he is ] wants to play.... they both pay.


Jagermann78 45M

4/4/2018 2:52 pm

    Quoting Heathen_G:
    make him foot the bill on the motel. .... No you mangina, she's not a prostitute. She wants to play, he [whoever he is ] wants to play.... they both pay.
To think I have been doing it wrong my whole life. I always thought the guy picked up the tab on the first date.

Anyway, good luck with whatever you decide to do. Be Safe and Be Sane.

J.


zeke53028 65M  
1135 posts
4/4/2018 3:46 pm

Ask a friend if you can use their place. Don't host and don't go to his place until you know him better. If you do already know and trust him, then going to his place is probably ok.


Baltofriendly 58M/54F

4/4/2018 4:46 pm

For us it was meeting the guy at a sports bar where everyone could feel at ease and get to know each other without making any promises
When we did want to take that extra step it was very easy to take a walk to the parking lot and act like those high school days in the back seat
Of course there are limitations in back seat but it was a great way to see if I wanted to take it further kinda like a test drive and also make sure you maybe want to bring a girlfriend or husband to keep an eye on you when you walk out
Safety is always the main issue and never let the guy drive away with you to someplace, we had the guy give my husband his drivers licence and went to our car.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
4/4/2018 6:37 pm

    Quoting Jagermann78:
    To think I have been doing it wrong my whole life. I always thought the guy picked up the tab on the first date.

    Anyway, good luck with whatever you decide to do. Be Safe and Be Sane.
To think I have been doing it wrong my whole life... .... You mean since 1997? Yes, you have been doing it wrong.

I always thought the guy picked up the tab on the first date. .... No. The man paying for the company of the woman is passe. You want to play [have sex] with a woman, as much as she wants to play with you... so you only pay for yourself. She pays for herself.


Jagermann78 45M

4/4/2018 7:03 pm

    Quoting Heathen_G:
    To think I have been doing it wrong my whole life... .... You mean since 1997? Yes, you have been doing it wrong.

    I always thought the guy picked up the tab on the first date. .... No. The man paying for the company of the woman is passe. You want to play [have sex] with a woman, as much as she wants to play with you... so you only pay for yourself. She pays for herself.
I am absolutely flabbergasted that my post offended a guy....totally shocked!! I have offended a guy who’s own profile say “I am only here for dating (sex)” and then bases his argument on if a women expects the guy to pick up the tab she is no better than a prostitute. I am sorry I offended you and your cheap fling just went up in price. Cheaper than a whore....and you want to call me out on my age?

Truth be told...I agree on splitting the tab. Just not on the first encounter. I honestly believe women should be treated better than just a notch on the belt, and having a guy foot the first encounter can help....sort out the chaff.

I also don’t think this young ladies blog is where we should hold this discussion.

J.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
4/4/2018 7:33 pm

    Quoting Jagermann78:
    I am absolutely flabbergasted that my post offended a guy....totally shocked!! I have offended a guy who’s own profile say “I am only here for dating (sex)” and then bases his argument on if a women expects the guy to pick up the tab she is no better than a prostitute. I am sorry I offended you and your cheap fling just went up in price. Cheaper than a whore....and you want to call me out on my age?

    Truth be told...I agree on splitting the tab. Just not on the first encounter. I honestly believe women should be treated better than just a notch on the belt, and having a guy foot the first encounter can help....sort out the chaff.

    I also don’t think this young ladies blog is where we should hold this discussion.
This has nothing to do with being "Offended". That's ridiculous.

then bases his argument on if a women expects the guy to pick up the tab she is no better than a prostitute. .... When you, the male, has to pay for a woman's company, either sexual or nonsexual, you are treating her as a prostitute, or the other word for this, an "Escort".

Truth be told...I agree on splitting the tab. Just not on the first encounter. ... The first encounter is the most important and the most telling about how their two personalities will get along, and will they be able to be sexual together.

This isn't 1908, women work just as hard as you do. Would be foolish to spend on a woman whom you have no intimate history.

I honestly believe women should be treated better than just a notch on the belt, ... You're saying you honestly pretend women are more than a notch on your belt ...okay then you should also understand why you should never spend your money on a woman with whom you have no history.

and having a guy foot the first encounter can help...... Helps nothing. She's sexually interested in you , or she just isn't sexually into you at all. This archaic practice of spending money on a female whom you have no history, done today, only puts the woman on a pedestal , which you should not do either, since today the push is for social equality.

I also don’t think this young ladies blog is where we should hold this discussion. ... This isn't her blog... this is her chosen topic, on her blog, so this is quite appropriate to discuss.


Jagermann78 45M

4/4/2018 8:18 pm

Perhaps offended isn’t the word I should have used then. You are pissed off that a woman might expect you to provide the motel for the first meeting. The first meeting that says so much about each other. For example one might be able to say “I am so confident in what I do I will foot the bill because I know you will be back for more”.

I am not pretending that women are more than a notch because if you took a second to educate yourself about me you would see. I am not here for sex....at all.....turned it down yesterday and the day before. I am not here to notch the belt.

Never spend money on a woman you have no history with. As a business owner I will take quality over quantity and I am always willing to pay a little extra for that.

Btw you left out the part where I said “it helps....sort out the chaff”. Yes I was implying something. Just because a woman is sexually interested in me doesn’t mean I can quit trying to treat her special. Again, in business, it is my job to stand out from the crowd so it is only natural for me to implement this behavior in all aspects of my life. I wonder how this would go....would a woman choose the younger model that is willing to spoil them a little, or the other that thinks they should not be put on a pedestal.

J.


albl8888 53M

4/5/2018 12:37 am

Let the man pay for the hotel.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
4/5/2018 3:32 pm

    Quoting Jagermann78:
    Perhaps offended isn’t the word I should have used then. You are pissed off that a woman might expect you to provide the motel for the first meeting. The first meeting that says so much about each other. For example one might be able to say “I am so confident in what I do I will foot the bill because I know you will be back for more”.

    I am not pretending that women are more than a notch because if you took a second to educate yourself about me you would see. I am not here for sex....at all.....turned it down yesterday and the day before. I am not here to notch the belt.

    Never spend money on a woman you have no history with. As a business owner I will take quality over quantity and I am always willing to pay a little extra for that.

    Btw you left out the part where I said “it helps....sort out the chaff”. Yes I was implying something. Just because a woman is sexually interested in me doesn’t mean I can quit trying to treat her special. Again, in business, it is my job to stand out from the crowd so it is only natural for me to implement this behavior in all aspects of my life. I wonder how this would go....would a woman choose the younger model that is willing to spoil them a little, or the other that thinks they should not be put on a pedestal.
You are pissed off .... Nope. Not even.

a woman might expect you to provide the motel for the first meeting..... That would be unreasonable of a woman today.
If she was a prostitute, then sure, absolutely. But she isn't. She just wants to play, and there is absolutely no assurance she wants to do more than just get a good fuck.

The first meeting that says so much about each other. ... Usually this is a one-time-thing . You have one shot at being desirable.... the importance of this is to see if she wants to get fucked by you. Maybe she won't. So behaving like you have White-Knight flu , isn't going to make her [or any woman] want to see you naked. It's all about chemistry and physical attraction.

I am not pretending that women are more than a notch ....However , you can pretend that , or you absolutely can make that your goal. ...Another thing you snowflake men don't consider, the women today have a different outlook on sex. HA... The man could very well be a notch, to her.

As a business owner I will take quality over quantity and I am always willing to pay a little extra for that. ... Sure, and in human terms, that means you'll pay more for the best looking prostitute. However... in this case, we have a woman on a sex site looking for fun. This isn't about how much you'd pay to be with her. This is about how you and any woman would get along, and then find a place to play.

Btw you left out the part where I said “it helps....sort out the chaff”. ... I did, because the comment wasn't pertinent.

This is about sexual chemistry. That's all. And very likely , just a one-time-fuck.

Just because a woman is sexually interested in me doesn’t mean I can quit trying to treat her special. .... Why do you think you need to "Treat her special"? She's a person who may or may not want to fuck, get over your flu.

would a woman choose the younger model that is willing to spoil them a little, ... A woman is more likely to take financial advantage of this type of boy.

or the other that thinks they should not be put on a pedestal. ... If the chemistry is there, she'll go with this person.

If you want to pay for quality sex, go to Vegas, Germany, Thialand or Amsterdam. What the young woman was talking about was simply , where should she go to have fun and be safe for her.


badel404 35M

4/6/2018 4:27 pm

car sex or share a hotel room


Desir4Fire 49M
2387 posts
4/8/2018 1:47 pm

He should get and pay for the room and he can stay the night!
You only go to the room if you two click!!
If you fee that he should not have to pay for it all, give him cash for half the rate!


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
4/9/2018 1:56 am

Another reason for splitting the cost of a motel/hotel , where the intention is to have sex with each other, you don't want to end that session with the feeling like now you owe him for something if he pays for everything. You're not a hooker, you're a person looking to have some fun.

Say the guy puts on his Gentleman costume and pays for a lavish -Pretty Woman type of room ...then what? Are you going to feel like you owe him later, or maybe now he feels you owe him.....

If you split the cost, there's no tension later. Simple as that.


jasonday81 51M
21 posts
4/9/2018 8:05 am

If he is really into you he'll pay for the hotel.


Thick8incny 54M
15 posts
4/9/2018 9:16 am

Car sex in a park is always exciting!


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
4/9/2018 3:39 pm

    Quoting jasonday81:
    If he is really into you he'll pay for the hotel.
LOL...no...he has a personal problem... he'd be feeling he has to purchase sex with the woman, or any woman. He's unable to accept that the woman [any woman] wants to have sex with him, completely ignoring the fact that she's already given consent.

He's got an inadequacy problem.

Money, means power for men, this attracts women.

Money [for women], means independence [from men], this is a state of financial independence women have fought for decades to be able to have for women.


bigthing663 53M

4/12/2018 6:39 pm

just find a host and all will be good


InsectorGadget 43M
96 posts
4/16/2018 6:13 pm

I prefer outdoors to car sex but that was the closest option. It isn't hard around where I live to find a place to be alone, or even alone with the possibility of being caught.


cohotsandy 62M/66F
41 posts
8/27/2018 10:40 pm

Sweetie I am sorry that there has not been a book "Swinging For Dummies" printed yet but there are some truly basic rules that you need to follow for your safety and the first is to not reveal your address to anyone until you have first met them in a social and non threatening environment, then remain cautious since you are a single woman! The social first meeting is important to get a feel for the person you are planning to have fun with, believe me there are too many assholes out there! Do not let them be too pushy,this may take literally hours of conversation and getting acquainted! Always lookfor keywords like: meeting without expectations, or they have an understanding there is nothing on the first date (unless you find that special guy/girl you cannot resist!). Always remain in control afterall it is something very special you are offering! Do not feel desperate to fulfill your list, there are many wonderful people out there that are non-judgmental that will help, pick wisely! Good luck and have fun!


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